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Eye contact, voice tone, touch (including nurturing- |
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Opportunities for enjoyment and laughter, play and fun, are provided unconditionally throughout every day with the child. |
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Decisions are made for the purpose of providing success, not failure. |
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Successes become the basis for the development of age- |
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The child's symptoms or problems are accepted and contained. The child is shown how these simply reflect their history. They are often associated with shame which must be reduced by the adult's response to the behaviour. |
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The child's resistance to parenting and treatment is responded to with acceptance, curiosity, and empathy. |
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Skills are developed in a patient manner, accepting and celebrating "baby- |
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The adult's emotional self- |
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The child needs to be able to make sense of their own history and current functioning. The understood reasons are not excuses, but rather they are realities necessary to understand the developing self and current struggles. |
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The adults must constantly strive to have empathy for the child and to never forget that, given their history, they are doing the best they can. |
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The child's avoidance and controlling behaviours are survival skills developed under conditions of overwhelming trauma. They will decrease as a sense of safety increases, and while they may need to be addressed, this is not done with anger, withdrawal of love, or shame. |
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The child may be held at home or in therapy for the purpose of containment and safety
when the child is in a dysregulated, out- |